Stopped me in my tracks.

 Have you ever had a moment when you heard someone say something or you'd come across a quote that just shook your spirit?  That happened to me the other day, while I was watching (don't laugh) The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills.  I'm assuming that most of you have seen on the news that Taylor's husband Russell committed suicide a couple weeks ago.  So this whole season, we will probably get to witness the full breakdown of their marriage, which is pretty sad.  Anyway, at the end of the season opener on Wednesday, they showed clips of what's to come in future episodes.  One of the clips, Taylor is distraught and crying and she says to someone (I think it's Kyle), "You don't have to be my friend, but please don't be my enemy."  Talk about a powerful statement. That made me want to cry for her!

What she'd said, got me to thinking about how people in general are just so aggressive these days.  Everyone is so extreme with feelings and opinions.  We either love a person or hate them (think, Beyonce).  Why no more in between?  One thing I've learned through the years, is the POWER OF INDIFFERENCE or what I also call, the power of IGNORE.  It's healthy for both parties--the person's feeling we are talking about and the subject of those feelings.  Why spend the energy hating or disliking someone, when you can just be indifferent?  Learning to consciously use indifference does not happen overnight.  It does take some practice.  But we all have the ability to exercise control over our emotions.  We're human, we all feel jealousy or envy at times (hopefully fleeting), we've all been offended or insulted by someone, or just plain turned off.  The most powerful thing a person can do in any situation like that is learn to hit that "indifference/ignore" button, and bam!, no drama, no lingering feelings, no hate, etc.  And boy, when that person sees or realizes that you are indifferent to them or ignoring them, it takes the power they have over your feelings back and they know it.  Well, in the case of my example of Beyonce, I'm sure she's indifferent herself to her backlash and it probably doesn't bother her at all. haha

So the point I'm making is, in reverse of that.  If it is YOU who does not like someone, or hates someone, or even jealous of someone---that doesn't mean you have to be their enemy.  If anything, remove that person from your HEAD.  I could have said "life", but that's not always possible.  You don't have to carry ill feelings, do mean or vicious things, etc. to that person just because you don't like them, especially if they have never done anything really to you.  Learn to let some things roll off of your back.  Learn to turn the other cheek, learn to control feelings of jealousy/envy and not allow it to become a compulsion....and I'm telling you, you will have a more peaceful existence, and your emotional well-being will thank you for it.

xoxo,

-Nik